Me? I experienced it a hundred times (very hard to count).
Just only last weekend, I was wearing this DIY-cropped top (picture above) and my weekend market shorts (but hey it's from UNIQLO!) and my kicks - went to SM Aura for my weekend shopping for groceries, then I decided to drop by at the SM Aura's beauty store. I was checking some new lippies to add to my collection, I even ended up swatch-ing this matte-lipstick from Revlon counter, when the Revlon lady approached me and without hesitation, staring at me from head-to-toe-then-back-with-matching-eyebrow-raise-kinda-bitchy-look and says:
"Are you buying??? You seem you can't afford."
I wasn't in the mood to be feel bitchy..
But this Revon girl seems ohh nope ... she is judging me.
Just because I was wearing a cropped top and a poor lady's shorts???
I won't allow her to ruin my day, so I just smiled and walk-out... making sure she sees me going to the Maybelline counter and bought the latest lipstick full collection.
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I'm not saying I don't judge people.
Because I do. I don't exclude myself just because I'm writing this post.
I also judge someone on television watching runways, and other shows.
As a fashion blogger and critic, it is my job to judge and give constructive criticism - but I admit that sometimes, out of the blue - I can't help blurting out judgy comments, my only way to release my disappointment. Not other's fault but I couldn't help it.
And I feel guilty after (of course).
Well, a correction sometimes. hahaha
Another story:
I have attended this product launch at the famous club in the town - attended by known celebrities, online influencers, fellow fashion bloggers, etc. When I saw this group of a clique of fashion bloggers owning massive IG followers, to greet them and say HI - I suddenly stopped when I saw their glaring-judgy eyes staring at me from head to toe, they laugh at each other.
Yeah, I felt a little humiliated (inside).
But then I told myself - damn I'm better!
I was invited because the PR and Management team believes in my works and passion.
And I know and everyone knows that I am kicking-ass.
Fashion Blogger Gala Gonzalez, Susie Bubble, Hana Tajima, and Clementine Desseaux on Say Something Nice Campaign
Which makes me think...
If we minimize judging others because of their style - the world would be a better place. Sounds dreamy but I find it's true. Women will understand more fellow women; Women will gain more friends, and Women will be more accepting. Not judging others, and rather say something nice, will give you a smile and a window (or doors!) from her life.
I actually recently wrote a post about why judging others is more about you and not them. I think we all do it for different reasons in different situations. As a salesperson though, I think she should not have made that comment. You are a customer.
ReplyDeleteThank you sis... I admit that it still happens here in the Philippines. There are times they give priority someone who dresses well. It is sad but true. Pity, coz I like that brand.
DeleteI hate judgmental people, even though I know it can happen sometimes unintentionally. I really like this campaign. It's funny, to me, to have snobby bloggers looking down at people because most bloggers - whether they are hobbyists or paid professionals - don't share all of their story when they post online. Chances are they took a million photos for that one perfect one on IG (which is ok, nothing wrong with it) but why act like they just woke up perfect?
ReplyDeleteAlso, I'm curious to what your weekend shorts look like because I think the top is cute.
it was the Chino capri-shorts in beige color from Uniqlo. :D
DeleteThanks for liking my top, I actually thrifted it from an old shirt, triple my size :D
It is desirable to be non-judgmental,after all we would not know all the circumstances to pass judgement on someone else.
ReplyDeleteI'm sad to say I've had this happened when my friends and I were shopping for prom dresses in highschool. People just on skin complexion, perceived social status and more. This is a great campaign to align with. I'm sorry that happened to you!
ReplyDeleteNo worries Star :D Yeah still lots of people are having a habit of being judgy. But then, we have to stay positive always, and not allow them to ruin our day
DeleteOmg now this looks like my kind of event!!! I would love to attend
ReplyDeleteFollow Amazon Fashion for their next leg :)
DeleteI'm so sorry this happened to you!
ReplyDeleteHello Chelf,
DeleteNo worries! Actually its a nice experience - I've got a chance to observe people and study them :)
I love this campaign! I'm always about being nice. There's no point in being rude to others.
ReplyDeleteI agree. Being rude will only gives you negative vibes, and adding age :)
DeleteIf everyone does their part it would be possible. I think sometimes it's done indirectly, without the person even noticing that they are doing it.
ReplyDeleteI agree. so better #SaySomethingNice always :)
DeleteOH my gosh, yes. It reminds me of that scene in Pretty Woman. When Julia Roberts goes to a really fancy store and they don't even acknowledge her and, when they do, they just assume she can't afford things because of her appearance.
ReplyDeleteHahaha yeah I like that movie too! But I wasn't wearing clothes like a hooker?! LOL
DeleteI don't understand why people judge you on what you wear and the fact they think they can how much money somebody has by thier clothes! I worked in Harvey Nichols a few years ago & learnt you can never judge a sale through an outfit
ReplyDeleteI agree. Dressing low-key is like carrying a shield. You'll not getting any flashy attention. But yup mostly being judge that you can't afford.
DeleteGirl, I get judge with looks every time I go to Sephora or a makeup store just because I wear slim to none makeup. Honestly, I even STOPED going to Sephora, now I go to the counter on Macys, the girls are nicer there!!!
ReplyDeleteOh I heard many good reviews about Macy's services. Glad you like it too!
DeleteAww, you have great style! I feel like when I try something new is when people judge me.
ReplyDeleteThey all judgy. I will take it if I noticed they are very professional, but judging the shoppers because they dressed low-key, is not fair.
DeleteI have heard of a lot of people being judged for their style. Whether guy or girl I think that happens to some degree. We always are having people try to measure us by someone else's standards. We really need to stop that and not worry about what others think, but I know that it is very hard.
ReplyDeleteYeah, but still the fact that most of the people are very visual. Our brains are trained that all things nice and pretty are good.
DeleteWe need to be more open for reality.
I just got to say I love your glasses the ones you have in your first picture in the ones you have in the last picture they are gorgeous. I love wearing different eyeglasses I have about four pair of prescription fashion and many in prescription.
ReplyDeleteThank you Saidah!
DeleteOhh I remember about my glasses. Am wearing a low-key outfit, and a luxurious prescription glasses that costs $200 , LOL
yea.. everyone judges everyone, no matter what... but for that revlon girl to underestimate a customer i think is really low of her.
ReplyDeleteWell I smiled back at the Revlon Girl carrying my full Maybelline lipstick collection near her face. LOL sucked it up!
DeleteThis is a wonderful campaign. I've learn that it's better to not say anything than to say something awful and ruin someone's day.
ReplyDeleteI agree Emily! Thank you dear :)
DeleteI hate that kind of feeling for instance. But hey! I love your positive attitude. I would put my head up and don't bother that stares. They are just feel intimidating.
ReplyDeleteThank you Cindyrina :) SMILE!
DeleteWhat a honest and beautiful post. I completely think judging others shows a lack of own character. You're strong and fierce Blair honey.
ReplyDeleteThank you Namrata! Let's help promote positive vibes :)
DeleteWahh. So rude, if I was in your place, I would say back to her "Can you afford one?" haha.
ReplyDeleteLOL OMG I was tempted to talk back! But I wasn't in the mood to be bitchy, so its her lucky day :)
DeleteI do so agree... we really should always say something nice to people rather the try bring others down....
ReplyDeleteI agree Miera. Because we will not get anything if we put others down, other than guilt feelings after.
DeleteEveryone judges. I think it's how you project it or keep it to yourself that determines your maturity. Everyone just needs to be themselves and let the haters hate because we all haters of something.
ReplyDeleteI agree. But something its funny to let the haters hate. And actually am studying how to make those haters converted to $$$ that would be very interesting!
DeleteYou can't judge people by the way they look. That lady has a problem.
ReplyDeleteHahaha I agree, or maybe she had a bad day, and I was happen her release :)
Deletewow, someone really asked you that! I'd be living and probably would have given them a piece of my mind! It is so important not to judge though.
ReplyDeleteYeah, and I was surprised! If I was in a mood to be bitchy, she might be reported to her manager and learned her lesson. Instead, I showed her that I CAN :D
DeleteOh i hate it when promoters give that kind of look to me. Like seriously, They don't need to be like that. It makes their customer not comfortable. ialways face this kind of situation. Normally i will walked out while saying loudly to my friends, "let's go buy from somewhere else. The staff here are so not friendly."
ReplyDeleteLOL That's a nice tricks!
DeleteTo be honest I have never spent my time thinking how people judge me and i dont waste time judging others as well. What matters is how well we progress, not how others look or wear.
ReplyDeleteI agree.. have peaceful life and just mind our own business :D
DeleteYep, been there and have been judged. While buying clothes at a high end store I dont wanna name ;), I was judged by 1 girl but instead I bought more stuff from the same counter, asked the register girl to add another sales lady name for commissions and also told them about my experience. Its just not fair to be judged and should be spoken wherever needed.
ReplyDeleteI know, and its not good for the soul judging others.
DeleteBlair I believe you would look posh and chic even if you wore an old sack!The sales lady has no training and even worse IQ .That's why she is doing sales in a shop and you have your own brand.As for the other fashion bloggers they are just J because they don't have your unique style.Stop judging is z superb campaign .Loved your take
ReplyDeleteHahaha thank you Amrita. I haven't tried wearing a sack, but I'll try once and I'll see if I still look good wearing it :D
DeleteLove your style as always ;) really a pretty one! Between I love big frame spectacles too :) cheers, SiennyLovesDrawing
ReplyDeleteThank you Dear! It's my main graded eyeglasses from Tom Ford, and it ain't cheap!
DeleteThere should be a level of professionalism upon attending events and coming right down to it, she had no right to be judgemental or treat you that way, for after all being humble is always the best path to follow. This is a great campaign though <3
ReplyDeleteBeing humble will leads us to a more farther and adventurous places. If she continue to be like that, she will be forever be a salesperson.
Deletesupport your view on saying something nice. life is not easy already - so treating somebody nice is good for yourself and others!
ReplyDeleteThank you Gengqian!
DeleteIf we have a back day - other people doesn't deserve to shoulder you heavy loads. Or if people doesn't have something nice to say, better shut-up.
How inspiring my dear! I love this post and such a nice campaign to gives the correct say something nice info to everyone you meet in life! Not to judge them, but to embrace and encourage them =)
ReplyDeleteThank you Sharon!
DeleteLife is too short for negative vibes, and we all just living temporarily in this world so better make it count and make a good and positive life. That starts with #SaySomethingNice
Thanks for sharing. we should never let such ppl bothering us. instead, say something nice is my practice everyday
ReplyDeleteThat's better and you'll see that your world will be much better to live in :D
DeleteI love you positive energy! I agree that the world is slacking of love when it comes to words :) Dont ever let anyone bring you down
ReplyDeleteThank you Aliza for your support! Yeah we much spread positive vibes even more :)
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