When two people start living together as a couple, they gradually get used to each other. Especially men. After all those longed-for dates and endeavors to impress, they can finally relax because they know they are loved for who they are. Partners get so comfortable with each other that they seem more like roommates than lovers. That first-date euphoria wears off and their relationship gets into a dangerous phase of routine and doubts. Is it possible to survive this tricky stage and keep the flame of passion burning? The answer is yes. But both partners should constantly work on their relationship contributing to its development and preventing it from dying out.
Here are some recipes from Russian Brides Dating to help you save that romantic spark of your relationship.
Go out on dates
Don’t just eat out discussing domestic problems but go on real romantic dates and enjoy each other’s company. Choose the venue in advance, preferably those places where you’ve never been before. Dress up for each other. Eat slowly, tasting every single bite. Turn off your phones and be present in the moment. In other words, just have a great time together.
Give presents
Don’t wait for Christmas or St. Valentine’s Day to present your loved one with a gift. If women regularly get small presents (chocolates, flowers) from their significant others, they feel loved and important. Unexpected gifts are more meaningful and charming. If walking around a store you suddenly spot an item your partner will definitely love, buy it. Don’t save that idea for a special occasion. Spontaneous gifts translate one very important message: “You’re always on my mind and I think about you even if you’re not by my side”.
Take care of your looks
Living together is often fraught with neglecting your appearance. You’ve found your significant other and now you can relax. This is the logic of many couples where partners think that it’s OK to walk in a dirty T-shirt about the house or shave legs/remove nose hair in front of the other partner. Comfort and laxity are two different things and those who don’t see this difference gradually become less attractive to their partners, both emotionally and sexually. That’s why it’s important not to cross that line of “naturalism” even if you feel very comfortable and relaxed.
Admire each other
At the stage of dating, compliments, tender touches, cuddling, and words of admiration are usual things that come naturally without any effort. But with time, people start taking their partners’ virtues for granted. If a woman cooks the best lasagna in the world or parks her car like a pro, her man sees it every day and stops taking it as something really exciting. Is there any point in complimenting her regularly on her talents? There is, definitely. If her man doesn’t praise her, she’ll start to think why she needs that man.
Always remember that “we” is always more important than anything else. Never sacrifice quality time with your loved one to your job or friends. There should always be time just for you two.
One thing I recommend is to figure out your "love language" and your partner's "love language." For both my husband and I, we don't really appreciate gifts as much as we prefer quality time/experiences, so it's all dependent on the individual and the couple.
ReplyDeleteAs long as you are happy together, that's good!
DeleteSo true! Loved to read to this. It's very important to keep investing. We go on trips together. Go out for dinner together. Just spend time and do other things. A new environment is always nice. On a holiday or a weekend away. And we now started at a sports school together :).
ReplyDeleteThanks for more additional tips Carola!
DeleteThat admire each other pic is so adorable. You made me miss my hubby :) Loved your post
ReplyDeleteGive him a call! My boyfriend appreciates a lot my random call and just saying "I love you" hahaha makes me feel love too :D
DeleteAdmire each other. Yes. This is my favourite off your list. I think when you admire each other, the other things just fall into place and becomes what you naturally want to do. Very on point.
ReplyDeleteThank you for visiting Sheri :D
DeleteI agree!! Although I don't always take care of looks. I'm all about comfort. But I try to always have my hair brushed and such.
ReplyDeleteI love the picture by the way! Disney is the best.
Thank you dear! We always have Disney in our hearts :D
DeleteI love this post and I am absolutely IN LOVE with the photos. Especially that first one! I love the going on dates tip. So important to keep the romance alive!
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Thank you Kyla :D
DeleteI totally need a date night. Just had baby #2 and I'm going stir-crazy!! Love your mickey balloon pic btw - it's adorable as are you!
ReplyDeleteThanks Christina! Yeah have a date-night. And have something to make you feel fresh again, plus a celebration for baby #2 :D
DeleteYour post has valid points. Similar to being married (which I'm not), you definitely have to work to keep the romance alive. Keeping the spark is really important.
ReplyDeleteNowadays, there is no reason to be connected - we have internet, computers and phones. What will only stop us IF we have lost interest to communicate.
DeleteLove this! My husband and I have been together for seventeen years and keeping the romance alive has never been a problem. However, I'm always looking for great ways to keep it that way :)
ReplyDeleteWow 17 years! That's amazing :) Share us your secrets how to make your relationship and romance alive :)
DeleteGreat tips shared! I strongly believe that in any relationship, one should not take the other person for granted!
ReplyDeleteYes Ana, both couples should give-and-take, act as partners and work as a team!
Deletereally great tips you re giving here
ReplyDeleteThank you!
DeleteIt's so easy to fall out of love and get busy. I love the picture and these are some excellent tips to do.
ReplyDeleteThank you Valerie! Never to fall out of LOVE!
DeleteI think that making time for each other is so important. My husband and I have been together for 16 years and we always make time for date nights.
ReplyDeleteHello Dannii,
Delete16 years! Ohh geez I'm very inspired!
So true and sensible points!And it is a 2 way relationship!
DeleteLove the pictures included, they have added essence to your post.
Great list of tips which I will store for future purposes. I am a singleton and being single for 6years now so totally out of the game ;/
ReplyDeleteHello Verushka,
DeleteDon't say you are out of the game, coz you've been there. You just enjoying your new life as a singleton, and I think its fabulous!
Thanks for the advice! I totally agree, even though I doubt I'll find someone able to stand me for a very long time haha
ReplyDeleteI'd add this: I think it's most important to find a sort of common formula, way of living or thinking of the couple, in order for it to last long and well! :)
Good point! If both parties have common interests, there are always many ways to make each other understand.
DeleteSo true about keep care of your looks. I feel if someone in the couple slacks too much, the other one will feel that is quite ordinary, that the other person doesn't want to impress you anymore...
ReplyDeleteHahaha I agree. And it doesn't hurt to try to look good and keep on impressing your partner. It means both of you are working as a team to look and feel better, and stay connected and attracted.
DeleteIt doesn't need we ladies should always have that contoured face and heavy makeup (my boyfriend doesn't like it), a fresh look, and hint of lip gloss is enough, plus a nice hair :D
Awwww. This is so so cute. I totally agree with everything said. I am a total Roman person and enjoyed every bit of this post.
ReplyDeleteThank you Laveena :D
DeleteI am so with you on the gift-giving tips. I really am disenchanted with Christmas and Valentines gift-giving culture. I think that a gift given because of obligation is no gift at all. I love giving gifts (actually, I don't really care to receive them so much..) and I am always looking for gifts that I can give someone on a random Tuesday, "just because."
ReplyDeleteI even tried once to not give a Christmas present on Christmas.. I had bought a perfect something for my then-girlfriend but wanted to give it to her a few days later so as not to devalue the thought that went into it. Maybe that was a stupid idea on my part, or maybe that was a great thing to have done, because by New Year, I was single. Haha. It was probably stupid, but anyone who so desperately requires a gift on Christmas that the lack of one will destroy a relationship, is not a person I want to be with at all.
Hello Judson,
DeleteIf bought parties truly knows each other, it doesn't matter if one can give a gift on specific date or not. Though I admit it would be a PLUS if someone did, hahhaha.
My boyfriend gives me gift always after the specific occasions, because his reason is ".. at least my special day will be extended." which I find it makes sense, hahaha.
But always send give on specific occasions, hahaha I can't help it :D
These things are essential to keep your the constant spark in a relationship. I was in a long term relationship and we'd keep going on regular dates, try to new places and just be ourselves. There was never a moment where any of us got bored!
ReplyDeleteSame as what we do (me and my boyfriend). Makes me feel more love and connected. :D
DeleteGood relationships are built to be strong and for long distance, these are cool. Jut 2years and a few months with my girl now.. sometimes we are far, sometimes we are near.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!
DeleteWhen two are always connected, distance doesn't matter.
Dates and presents are so often seen as things delegated for special occasions. I think it's beautiful when two people can just plan things with no occasion at all and simply enjoy the moment of being in each other's love.
ReplyDelete... and that is truly romantic!
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