Warning: This article has some bad words from the Editor, because some words can’t be express in a nicer way.
Few weeks ago, I was browsing my social feed than usual to search for some interesting stuff that I could share with you – then I came across with this page with photos of little girls, joined the local beauty pageants. Little girls probably at age’s 4 to 7 years old, all were wearing a full make-up, blow-out hair, wearing inappropriate clothes (they called costumes) in their high heels, and smiling in front of huge crowd.
Are these little girls dressing up and acting like adults?
Are these little girls gave their consent to be exposed and to become a feast to the judgmental eye of the public?
Beauty pageants are nothing less than blatant objectification and hyper-sexualization of young girls. The costumes, the makeup, and the “primping” process teach these girls that their looks are what matters. Rather than raising strong, confident girls who want to achieve the best in life, these parents and the hosts of the competitions provide a platform on which little girls are dressed up as Barbie dolls and paraded around, trying to achieve some form of perfection that shouldn’t exist in little girls.
I felt personally DISAPPOINTED and make me question these parents.
What the FUCK are you doing to these kids?!!!
This is obviously an act of child-abuse!
For most pageants, children can begin participating basically as soon as they can sit up by themselves, so it is the parents, and most often the mothers, who force their kids into the pageant world.
And for what PURPOSE?
To get the FUCKING money and get the FUCKING tiara, or ribbon or that shiny trophy.
Of course, these little children do not enter the contests at their own request, but their mothers are the ones to fill in the applications on time, pay the participation fee, create or buy the outfit, establish the type of performance for the “talent section” (usually some song about the greatest love in one’s life and/or a terrible heartbreak; dancing is also a very popular talent to be displayed), create and exercise the hairstyle and make-up, keep a strict rehearsal schedule, hire trainers if the mom herself cannot coach the whole thing, fill in the gas tank and travel hundreds of miles with their children just to spend a weekend on an emotional roller coaster that for most of the mother-daughter teams has its last stop on “low”.
So why do these mothers (and rarely fathers) put their young girls (and sometimes boys) through this experience?
Well, the official answers are “For them to have fun and experience dress-up in a more complex environment” “Because she likes it.”, “Because she is beautiful.” etc.
Off the record the reality includes the “For the money” and “Because she (the truth is “I”) has to be number one” versions.
Anyway, for myself, the most feared answer to that question would be “Because I used to participate in such contests myself”, and no matter how that sentenced ends („… and I always won”, „…and I’ve never won, but I know she can do it!”), I just know things are going downhill.
Here’s what the only thing I would tell you people…
What they didn’t realize is they are totally DAMAGING THEIR CHILDHOOD
The pageant world for young girls can ultimately ruin their childhoods, essentially forcing them to grow up too soon; the costumes and the makeup and the big hair sexualize these little girls, way before they should become sexual. Young girls in beauty pageants often imitate older women through the use of sex appeal and costumes that “enhance” their outer beauty. The Beauty portions of the competitions feature the contestants dressed up in provocative outfits, dancing and performing the all-too-often inappropriate routines on stage, while being judged for their looks. This literal judgment can destroy the girls’ sense of self-worth and beauty, causing long-term damage.
For a “glitz pageant,” the typical preparation includes fake eyelashes, fake nails, hair extensions, teeth whitening, eyebrow waxing and grooming, heavy make-up, and most recently, breast and butt padding to enhance the look. The costumes are often low-cut, see-through, or just plain inappropriate for a little girl wearing it.
THIS ALL FUCKING SCREAM FAKENESS
This isn't funny or entertaining at all. These child beauty pageants is similar to a huge circus, only the difference is, the performers have gave their adult CONSENT.
During the talent/routine portion, the contestants strut across the stage, blowing kisses and winking, posing and twirling for the judges. The poses that the girls are taught are most often sexual, accentuating their hips and bottom. By dressing up little girls in sexy outfits and parading them across the stage, they are not only damaging their childhood, but they are also creating unhealthy habits.
They are honestly creating an image of shallowness and future sluts.
Because of tough competition and pressure from their parents, friends and society, these kids turned into little monsters showing inappropriate behavior to others, particularly to their competitors building an early DIVA-behavior.
Does a really concerned parent ever notice that?
Beauty Pageants Only Risk the Health of our Kids
Beauty pageants for young girls foster inappropriate, unnecessary and unhealthy behaviors. In striving for physical perfection, physical harm is done to these little girls. The make-up and hairspray are detrimental to their skin and growth. Hair spray contains chemicals that can act as hormone disruptors, and have been linked to stunted growth and even lung cancer.
The desire to be thin has progressed to girls, with studies showing girls in fourth grade saying they need to go on a diet, and have also shown parents putting their kids on crash diets to help them gain energy and lose weight, fast. This encourages eating disorders (such as anorexia and bulimia), dieting and struggling for perfection, which lasts late into adulthood.
You don’t realize it MOM and DAD but slowly, you are killing your own daughter.
Emotional and mental harm also takes effect from these pageants. The desire to be thin causes intense body image problems leading to stress, anxiety and the feeling that she needed to be perfect, all the time. Or her MOM will be every upset. I’ve personally witness some cases way back home, in my place in Legazpi City. Kids had this feeling that they should DO IT to make their parents happy and feel proud for them, and when things didn’t go with the plan, parents becomes really upset making their kids feel bad to themselves.
THE CREATION OF BEAUTY UTOPIA
In beauty pageants, children are expected to perform flawlessly on stage, placing enormous pressure on young shoulders. The creation of this so-called Beauty Utopia, with these children longing for perfection leads to long-term side impacts, causing superficiality, destroying self-worth and self-beauty, and causing girls to think that natural beauty will never be enough.
Displaying such a mature look (these girls are four or seven years old, yet their faces look like those of at least 16 years old) may attract unwanted public, such as pedophiles.
Overall, child beauty pageants cause major problems for girls in the long run, and are ultimately more hurtful than helpful. Beauty pageants like Binibining Pilipinas and Miss World are competitions among mature, self-assured women who are capable of making their own decisions, and the competitions ultimately result in scholarship and volunteer work for the women involved.
Child beauty pageants, however, ruin these girls’ childhoods and force them to grow up believing in their looks, rather than in themselves.
The sexualization of little girls is a dangerous path to follow, and beauty pageants are only doing more harm to the future generations of women.
We should be teaching our little girls that beauty can be seen in all shapes and sizes, not by how much make up someone wears.
I know that some guilty mothers will hate me for this outrageous post. And you’ll end up being upset and bash me online. But do I care?
Because I care for children’s future and safety.
And because I want to be a good mother some day.
I’m ending my post with this outcry photo..
WE MUST ACT NOW, AND STOP CHILD BEAUTY PAGEANTS IN THE PHILIPPINES.
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